You’re always going to be too much of something, for some people.

Too loud.

Too happy.

Too nice.

Too skinny.

Too fat.

Too weird.

Too smart.

Too dumb.

Too stupid.

Too pretty.

Too ugly.

It’s okay to be too much of something.


Because not all people are your kind of people.

Did you catch that?

You’re not always going to be everyone’s cup of tea.

Not everyone’s going to look up to you for inspiration and you won’t have influence over everyone you know.

But you don’t have to be loved by everyone in order to make an impact.

“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”  –  Dita Von Teese

You can’t be all things to all people all the time — no matter how hard you try.

Been there. Done that.

It sucks.

In the past, I would apologise for being too nice, too assertive, too [insert whatever someone got upset over here] and then beat myself up for simply being myself. I would apologise for taking up space, having an opinion, speaking my truth or for saying or doing what I felt was right.

So if you acknowledge that it’s simply impossible to please everybody all of the time, you may as well accept that you’re responsible for striving to be the absolute best version of yourself — whatever that looks like.

It takes time to unlearn all of the bullshit that society and media have tried to sell and condition you to believe about who you are, who you’re supposed to be, who you’re meant to love, what you’re supposed to write or say, do or wear.

There is so much freedom in learning to be your unapologetic, vulnerable and authentic self.

As a result of being unapologetically you, some people are naturally drawn to your light and others simply aren’t.

That’s okay.

Be you.

Find your tribe, your brothers, your homies, your BFFs, your people, your family.

Continue to love them hard.

Forever and ever until you die.